Never Thought
On the 8th of September, I got on a plane bound for Taipei. Five weeks earlier, a friend that I had made during my 2020 intensely life-changing trip had texted asking if I wanted to play a rugby tournament. I hadn’t touched a rugby ball in well over two years, and I had, well… fallen off when it came to my fitness.
For the next five weeks, I made a point to improve my stamina. I started running. I ran on the beach because I didn’t have running shoes and well if I got too hot I could jump into the ocean.
But running wasn’t enough. Overall, I am happy with my progress, from nothing to running a mile and a half nonstop. It made me feel good. But it also made me miss a lot of things.
My life has been twisted and pulled in many different directions over the past three and a half years. A rugby tournament turned into a month-long adventure. That adventure took me away from my friends and community in China to a new country.
In Vietnam, I watched myself change. I was lost, and I wanted to find myself. I left one city for another.
After a year and a half in Saigon at a job I couldn’t stand, I walked away with the help and support of my best friend.
But I didn’t find what I was looking for. I was still lost and disconnected from myself. I found some old comforts, and maybe I didn’t consider what I truly wanted. I was happy to be free from Penn School but I wasn’t exactly happy.
I have had some fantastic times with my friends here in Da Nang. I have made friendships that I know will last a lifetime. I have discovered what I am looking for in a friend and what energy I want around me.
I am still growing, but for the first time in a while, I am happy with where I am. For now.
Traveling for rugby made me remember a different life. A life that I don’t have to give up. I can still be strong, have a good time, and be stable. I can travel and meet the most amazing women on the planet.
I can be humbled and realize I have a lot of work to do. On myself socially, physically, and financially. But this trip made me appreciate the diversity and challenge of the world I have built for myself.
I am greatful for every woman who played for The North on this rugby tour. It takes a lot to leave your country to do something wild. Rugby becomes so common place for a lot of us that we don’t realize how remarkable we are. I forgot a little bit. Thanks for reminding me.
I’m lucky to be able to learn and grow from these experiences.
I’ll always be a goofy, babbling, talkative weirdo. And I’m ok with that. But I don’t have to be lost.